You have to calm down and learn not to hit your friend.” This helps your child understand cause and effect as much as appropriate behavior. His inappropriate behavior resulted in no toys. However, please do this when it is developmentally appropriate. If the child does not understand sitting in time out, no amount of time will help.
Let Them Explore, and Sometimes Fail
Yes, let your toddler fail. Your child needs to try things for him or herself, but he or she also needs to know that some things are not appropriate for them to do. This means that you may have to clean up spilled milk from time to time. Your toddler also needs some victories.
Let him or her “chop” mushrooms using an egg slicer. Give them stools in the kitchen to stand on while you cook, and they help you by putting the cut vegetables in a bowl. Give them a small broom for sweeping or teach them how to sort Legos by color. Whatever you do, let them try things for themselves. Sometimes, let them succeed, but do not be afraid to let them fail before stepping in to help.